How not to take things personally? | Frederik Imbo | TEDxMechelen

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Frederik Imbo studied theatre at the Royal Conservatory of Ghent and has acted in lots of television series. He founded Imboorling and now has over 15 years' experience in stimulating and supporting people. With the aim of improving their communication skills Frederik gives presentations, workshops, training courses and personal coaching sessions to anyone prepared to make their two ears available.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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  • This is a great talk ❤

  • Good way to not take things personally for start is trying to understand completely goals of people by their words and actions as would you say the words or did these actions

  • Wow❤️

    • Hi Apu Techie! Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

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  • 1) it’s not about you. 2) it is about more

    • Hi R A! How nicely said!

  • U will always keep your value but dont forget to unfold again after u crumbled up so ppl can see it.

    • So true! Thanks Duck quack!

  • I took MRslow recommending this to me personally.

  • That was the most profound analogy for my spirit. Thank you ever so much💕

    • Hi JacQ NEWYORKER, Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

  • Its really special TEDx talks for me. Thanks for this Fredrik Imbo sir.

    • Hi Sukarn Mahendru! Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

  • A wise man once told me nothing.

  • My question is "how to not take this video personally?"

    • haha Anand. Watch it and you will know the answer!

  • I wanted to look at comments and it started to load about minutes. I said maybe the internet is low

  • You should not take this video personally...

  • Switch off human dignity and live without purpouse, this is what you hear here, we have to say something to this world, we are Someone, not a trush

    • @Tadeusz True! Real life is always more complex than the theory. Good luck!

    • and how did you manage with stress ? I was a futbol referee too, but It was to stressfull for me, I tried to folllow the book, but I was criticised for this by more experienced referees. I like your speech, but the topic is much more complicated I think.

    • @Frederik Imbo Ok, I will listen to you once again.

    • Hi Tadeusz. No, I don't agree. My talk says not that you have to switch of dignity. If you had listened more accurately, you would have heard me saying that you can speak up and come up for yourself. It's really important to let people know what you think, feel and need. However; if you do that out of the feeling that you had taken something personally, you would be quite aggressive in your communication. I only wanted to explain to people how you do not take things personally.

  • Amazing... Will implement this for sure... Thanks a lot for this talk.....

    • Hi Pradeepta. Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

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  • Amazing

    • @Frederik Imbo Thank you sir 😊

    • Hi Gagan sidhu Jaid! Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

  • wow when he said "you will always keep your value" yesss

    • Hi Surin Lee! Thank you for your gentle message! I'm glad you liked the ending of my TEDx talk with the 20 euro note and the fact that your worth always stays the same, regardless what people do or say to you. So thanks for watching till the end! I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

  • Skip to 6:00 to get to it.....

    • @Frederik Imbo Just added the link for those in a hurry.

    • haha yes! Sorry to have needed the full 6 minutes to introduce the topic.

  • Impresive speach...two simple rules which made youre life better...and what is mere important easier.

    • Hi Dawid, Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

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  • 4.3k people who disliked this video took it personally.

  • Geez, this one is a hard one! No doubt the world would be a much better place if we all applied this to our lives incl me, but damn, this would take decades of discipline

    • Hi Thank you very much for your kind message. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

  • That's all very nice, but he's saying things I already know, since I've had countless therapies and workshops and watched thousands of videos... I KNOW how not to take thinks personally, but I still CAN'T do it. I do not see how a few dozen more videos or therapies are gonna help... Honestly, after watching this video who suddenly feels like they are capable, now, to not take things personally?

    • Hi LancelotGraal. I can imagine you must feel despondent and discouraged to find out that after so much efforts you still don't feel capable to deal with this theme. I encourage you to not give up and to remain confident in yourself.

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  • What a wonderful message. Im going to share this with my kids so they learn about their value!

    • Hi! Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

  • This guy : How to not take things personally Michael Jordan : And I, took that personally

  • its just at work when managers say dont take things so personally, most likely they have a habit of mistreating employees..what they are really saying is im not good at my job and i will treat like i want and you better take it. unfortunately too many of us take it, cause we are working on not taking things personally.

    • Hi, if this is your reality, please speak up, set boundaries or quit the job.

  • that really touched my heart dude ❤

    • Hi Alaa Yousef. Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

  • I really love this! This really applies to all. As I was listening, I was also thinking about how many times I took things personally in my relationship.

    • Hi Claire. Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

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  • great speech, definitely 10 out of 10.

    • Hi Min-Bau Liao! Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

  • What other people's opinion of you will never define your value as a person. As long as you know yourself and you know that you do not do anything that will harm other people, then you're good. Never let anyone's opinion of you affect you because for sure, anybody has always something to say and they always have the right to tell you anything but you have to remember that you also have the right to prove them wrong. Never listen to anyone who brings you down instead use it as a fuel for you to keep going and reach your goal in life. You matter. ❤️

    • Hi Aleta Fye Ogayon! Thank you for your wise words. I totally agree with you. "If somebody else can decide what can happen within you right now - isn't this the ultimate slavery?" - sadhguru.

  • This was really good!

    • Hi Alle126, Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

  • There should be an "i Love It" buttom

    • @Frederik Imbo thanks for tour answer... Jajaja I shared It my family ando even my students. It is a great leasson and It must be share It. Bless you :)

    • Hi Fabiana! Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

  • His presentation and speaking skills kept me in through out the video. This would have taken a lot of practice!

    • Hi Surbhi Singh. Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

  • I just had this conversation with my Daughter Nicole. Wow, what timing. Praying she doesn't get offended 🙏.

    • I hope it together with you Melinda!

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  • This is really interesting because the first strategy does the complete opposite for me, when i try to think about others intentions my social anxiety makes me think that I'm the problem....my personal strategy is to live my world and make it a really tiny world so that I don't lose control and always stay me, my style ,my hobbies my thoughts, my nerves and everyone else is just an audience...and that's how I don't take things personally

    • @Frederik Imbo thank you

    • Hi! To be honest; I get a bit sad when I read this. Just because I genuinely believe that the strategy 'It's not about me could really help you with your social anxiety. everyone is responsible for making their needs being met. And thus; you're NOT responsible for meeting their needs. And to me, this is so tragic then that you choose to live your life hiden, in your own safe bubble. However, if it works for you, who am I to question this? I truly wish you all the best with it!

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    • @Julissa's messages oh shoot, hey I appreciate that!! I'll check him after my exams tho...thanks again

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  • This was great. Thank you so much! It served me a lot

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    • Hi Andrea Albert! Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

  • So true. You have given practical strategies, which overcome the emotional burden we put ourselves through by taking things personally.👍

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    • Hi Kavya! Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

  • I'm beginning to suspect that, in fact, he manipulated that first coin toss

    • @Frederik Imbo what a scumbag, huh? I'm taking that personally

    • Honestly? Yes!

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  • So simple, and yet such an elusive goal to accomplish. One victory at a time...thanks so much.

    • Hi Trina! Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

  • Everyone has there own battles going on in there lives each day. We just Never think they are actually worse off today than we are. Think about it this way ? If you have an absolutely terrible day when everything keeps going wrong. We feel upset or possibly angry. When we see someone else having a worse day than us. We think about how small our problem is now. Funny how this happens ??

  • From Me to We , It is not about me ! I like it ! Nothing to do with ME ! Don't take it Personnaly ! - It Is about ME ! You are an Orange ! Give Yourself Empathy ! You always keep your Value !

    • Nice summary André! Thanks!

  • what a cutie

    • the way ;)

    • @Frederik Imbo oh i didn't know it would be you replying personally, awesome hahaa!!!! i really liked the walk you connect with the audience and how smooth and pleasant is your attitude. congratulations you did great and seem to be a very nice person! :)

    • Ooooooh! Thanks J ul!

  • Good one.

    • thanks Andrej!

  • Successful people don't become that way overnight. What most people see at a glance wealth, a great career purpose is the result of hard work and hustle over time. I pray that anyone who reads this will be successful in life

    • But I don't know why people remain poor due to ignorance

    • You are right sir

    • But I don't know why people remain poor due to ignorance

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  • "we suffer far more by our imagination than ever in reality" -Seneca

    • It's insecurity not imagination

    • Very very true, those wise words!

  • AMAZING AMAZING. no one can change your value, only you. Good job done.

    • Hi Gracie Titus (what a funny name)! Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

  • Successful people don't become that way overnight. What most people see at a glance wealth, a great career purpose is the result of hard work and hustle over time. I pray that anyone who reads this will be successful in life

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  • he put $ in his mouth! I hope he didn't get sick after. Was there even an audience? No one laughed or raised a hand...weird.

    • Hi Lindsey, I can comfort you. the talk was launched in March of 2020, but was recorded in February of 2019. So long before corona! And the note was sanitized beforehand. The audience was quite quiet indeed. That is because hardly any sound was recorded from the reactions in the room. As a result, some reactions were added afterwards in the editing. The silent audience makes many suspect that they didn't find it interesting ... And you know, that's possible. Or they didn't like my style, or they were tired, or... or... Anyway; whatever the reason was, luckily I didn't take that personally :-)

  • This is just as much about Cognitive Bias as anything else. However, when it's friends, it's usually ALWAYS personal.

    • @Frederik Imbo Yes that is your choice, however, there is such a thing called cognitive bias, which is also in play here.. I never mentioned anything about taking it personally. Read my comment again.

    • Even when it's friends, and even when it's personal, you can decide to not to TAKE it personally.

  • Really need much much experience & life skills to express such a words of wisdom..... Thank you so much sir.

    • Hi Yamuna! Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

  • 🌈“More smiling, less worrying. More compassion, less judgment. More blessed, less stressed. More love, less hate.”

    • Very True! Thanks!

  • Thanks sir, for the video.

    • Hi Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

  • powerful last words

    • Hi Thank you for your gentle message! I'm glad you liked the ending of my TEDx talk with the 20 euro note and the fact that your worth always stays the same, regardless what people do or say to you. So thanks for watching till the end! I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

  • This is exactly what I was needing right now. 💙💚

    • Hi McGee Family, Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

  • I needed this! So I plan to send it with the acknowledgement that it really helped me. Hopefully my admission will diffuse any hurt feelings in the receiver.

    • @Frederik ImboIt was very kind of you to reply. Thank you. Keep on blessing people with your words and your life!

    • Hi Phylilis! Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

  • 4.3k people took it personally

  • Very helpful And down-to-Earth practicable!

    • Hi Lena, Thank you very much for your kind compliment. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

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  • Well the good thing is don't be over attentive about people Rather focus upon Ur work Be attentive about it

    • Very true Tarun.

  • this was so so good ! thank you for your values. its just so motivating

    • Hi 180-Shreya Gupta, Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

  • I already had the first strategy down but I always felt that it wasn't enough and now that I've seen the rest of the methods I feel more equipped to give it another go. thank you for this

    • Hi Beweave, Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

  • I couldn't watch because of the tinnitus-like sound

    • Hi Peter. Sorry to read that there was a highly picked droning that disturbed you so much. I have no idea where it came from. Could you try to listen to my talk with another device and tell me whether you have still the same? It's so strange. Only a minority of people apparently hear that annoying noise. Hopefully you'll be able to listen to it properly on another device without any hassle.

  • And if someone tries to murder you don't take it personally and let them achieve their aim

    • Hi Benjamin. What do you think yourself of your question? Of course you'll do anything in your power to prevent to be killed.

  • So basically... don't be Michael Jordan?

    • basically don't think like he's thinking about this yes.

  • Thank you so much. Needed this right about now.

    • Hi Sherry, Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

  • about to send this to my friend XD

    • @Frederik Imbo i loved your talk, thanks for hosting one!! :)

    • Hi Broskisephine, I hope that he or she liked it and it was valuable for them.

  • Exellent

    • Thanks Sid Dodge.

  • Nice

    • Thank you Dinesh.

  • What a way to complete the speech.

    • Hi Darsh. Thank you for your gentle message! I'm glad you liked the ending of my TEDx talk with the 20 euro note and the fact that your worth always stays the same, regardless what people do or say to you. So thanks for watching till the end! I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

  • omg that last scene make me rethink my life

    • Hi Souta. Thank you for your gentle message! I'm glad you liked the ending of my TEDx talk with the 20 euro note and the fact that your worth always stays the same, regardless what people do or say to you. So thanks for watching till the end! I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

  • I will save you around 17 minutes and tell straight away. You will stop taking things personally once you stop believing you are the most important person in the world and the universe. You are someone but yet nobody essential.

    • Hi Miko. I agree. We're not the centre of the universe. Our ego thinks we are. But in fact, we're just a tiny part of it.

  • What is our value? What is it if the world's system tells us its performance, intelligence, the amount of money you own? How do we not lose our value if that is what the majority thinks is our value? Please explain these three questions.

    • Hi Mercide. Thank you for your three questions. one: you and only you determines your value. It's your goal to like and appreciate yourself. Not the task of someone else. two: of course society will also value us, give us a salary, reward us or classify us. That's ok and this tells everything about the judger's preferences and needs. It does not tell anything about how we value ourselves from within us. three: again; your value depends of yourself. "If somebody else can decide what can happen within you right now - isn't this the ultimate slavery?" - sadhguru. I hope my answers to your question are helpful for you Mercide.

  • My supervisor always critic me on how i handle my worker. I feel bad like i'm doing it just like how you teach me. But, why it's not enough.

    • @Frederik Imbo sorry my english so bad. I am production line leader in an electronic factory. My supervisor at work always critic me on how i handle my operator. But, i'm doing the work just like how she teach me. When there problem, she want me to inform her. But then she mad because how the problem can occur at the first place. She say i'm not monitor the operator. Sometimes the operator not listen to me.

    • Hi Hawa. I don't understand your question. could you explain it a bit more?

  • Wow, as a ginger myself, this helped a lot!

    • @Frederik Imbo dank je wel. Mag ik wel vragen vanwaar je weet dat ik in torhout naar school ga?

    • Super Kiefer Moyaert! Laat je door niets of niemand van je stuk brengen! Groeten in Torhout!

  • I work at a call center, another prefect place to learn how to not take things personally

  • tks

    • With pleasure Florinda!

  • 🌀©️®️™️🏴‍☠️🚨⛔️🕵🏻‍♀️😂

  • Seriously who are the people who thumbs downed this? This was a great talk that applies to probably 90% of people

    • Hi Justin. Thank you for your enthusiastic response. Maybe those people don't agree with my message or did not like my personality?

  • even if they laugh at you, it's not about you they are just boosting their ego and think they are more cool than others

  • it's okay if they are not interested, people have many agenda by their actions it's not just about you

  • I recommended this video to a friend of mine after I watched it and found a great value. However, my friend took it personal.

    • @Frederik Imbo thank you for sparing your time for reply. I do indeed! Your video is a game changer in my life. It helped me to have a paradigm shift in how I can respond to peoples behavior and in how I behave as well. Thank you so much!

    • How sad. Now you know how not to take his reaction personally!

  • 😆😆

  • I like how he is nodding his head)

  • Hey don't do politics, you are english and you use an Euro ???!!!! I take that personally !

    • @Frederik Imbo Hi I am french. I am happy to hear that you are using the Euro Deutch Mark in Belgium too. Your conference is very useful, thank you very much and you can punish French footballers because they are cheaters

    • Hi, I'm not British. I'm Belgian and we use Euros here.

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  • You will always know your value. the ending is very powerful.

    • Hi J, Thank you for your gentle message! I'm glad you liked the ending of my TEDx talk with the 20 euro note and the fact that your worth always stays the same, regardless what people do or say to you. So thanks for watching till the end! I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

  • So, should I take this guy seriously?

    • Hi Xavier. You can decide yourself whether you take my message seriously or not.

  • Here's some tips for beating the fear of driving 1) Take control of your own life. 2) Learn about the power of the mind. 3) Follow in the tracks of people who have already overcome the fear. I got these tips from the Roys Quick Fix (check it out on google) without a doubt the best info on success that I've heard of.

  • why to low sound

  • I took this video personally

    • haha Savio. Please don't.

  • Beautifully said👏🏼

    • Hi Naveen Mohan. Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

  • This should be teaches to every one, in primary schools or other schools. You are a genious Fred

    • Hi Florence! Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

  • he seems like a very kind person

    • Well, I am... at least most this is what I aim for most of the times. Thanks Tanzeem.