A survivor’s plea to end child marriage | Payzee Mahmod | TEDxLondonWomen

रोजी प्रकाशित केले 6 जानेवारी, 2020
Payzee Mahmod was a normal teenager, idolising pop stars and pursuing her education. But her childhood was stolen from her when, at just 16 years old, her parents coerced her into marrying a much older man. Lacking the knowledge, power and language to protest the marriage, Payzee hoped another adult or professional in her life would intervene, help her and stop the marriage. Tragically the marriage went ahead and Payzee turned to self-harm and small acts of rebellion, to try and escape. But then everything changed. Her sister Banaz left her own abusive child marriage andmoved back in with their parents. In January 2006, after months of rumours and death threats, Banaz went missing. Three months later, her body was found in Birmingham - her father, her uncle and 3 other Kurdish men were tried and sentenced to life imprisonment. When Payzee turned 18, she got divorced and arranged Banaz’s funeral - all in the same month. Now she is speaking out on behalf of herself, her sister Banaz, and every child at risk of child marriage, to demand that the current law in England and Wales which shockingly allows marriage from 16 with parental consent is changed and that child marriage under the age of 18 becomes a crime. A survivor of child marriage, who lost her sister Banaz in a tragic “honour” killing, Payzee’s focus to prevent so called “honour” based abuse and child marriage could not be more personal. A Kurdish immigrant, raised in London, with a successful career in the fashion industry, she uses her voice to speak out as a survivor - not a victim - and has made it her mission to be a changemaker, helping to tackle these harmful practices. As an IKWRO ambassador and campaigner, her story and experiences have reached international audiences, including the Kurdish community. She has spoken widely on the need for changes to the laws surrounding child marriage and “honour” based abuse across radio, television and newspapers and met with government officials and the Home Office to explain first-hand why change is needed to finally make child marriage a crime. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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  • She "acted like a brat" at the wedding dress shop, to try and get the employees to notice she was a child. Ooof. I have been there. I remember acting out in school, trying to get my teachers to notice there was something wrong with me, but being too afraid to tell the truth. When you are so trapped that you can't even run away, can't even ask someone to help you, can't even scream, because you know you'll be caught and punished. This is how abuse works. Abusers make you so scared to tell on them that you just don't. It works, because over and over again, you are let down by adults who choose to do nothing. You learn to trust no one. You learn that no one cares. It takes a lifetime to unlearn that.

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  • I am almost 12 years old. I live in the USA. You may not believe me but when I am old enough I will become the president of the United States and I will outlaw this. I really hope you are doing better after telling your story.

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  • The parents, the nurse, the husband...all are culprits and slaves to the cultural system.

  • This woman made her family honoured by fighting the lie that makes you less honoured

  • This breaks my heart. I know this is a world wide problem and it needs to stop.

  • I saw a few comments saying "I can't believe this happens in the UK" but I can't believe it could happen anywhere. How can someone reduce the value of a person's life to their marriage status? Especially if they're a minor.

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  • Brave women.

  • why do women have to suffer at the hand of men

    • ask men that.

  • Very brave. Great speech. Child marriageable is wrong on every level.

  • not a good time to clap..

  • it affects more than just girls mate

  • Shame on every person who has sold or bought a child bride

  • Payzee how courageous of you to stand up and speak...much love and appreciation...

  • 15:30 the devout Muslim men cheer... Heathens

  • You are an amazing courageous woman and your sister would be so incredibly proud of you

  • prophet muhammad married a 9 yr old lmao

  • I try to live by I.D.I.C. I have had a respect for other cultures but I find this barbaric! How can a otherwise great culture that has done so much for more than thousand years submit to this insanity! How can this be honorable! There is to much accommodation child marriage is a crime

  • Brave brave woman

  • Shocking

  • Problem is not with the marriage at young age problem is with the forced marriage... There are many people who get married at young age and remain happy... Even a young Pakistani couple married and living a happy life... Islam is clearly AGAINST forced marriages...

  • A real dad only wants to see his daughter Happy, I know this because I have 2 little girls.

  • I can hear the pain in her voice and it breaks my heart so badly💔💔💔

  • Religion plays a huge role in child marriage. It is legal to marry a child under the age of 18 in all US States except for 4, where 20 states don’t require a minimum age. Many states require parental approval, but as in the case with this woman, it’s more like slavery. It’s so sad. This is human trafficking. So many people think human trafficking happens randomly & with strangers. It does not. Most of the time it occurs when a family member sells their kid, or the kid runs away & gets sucked into prostituting. We need to save our children, & we need to focus on the REAL perpetrators & REAL crimes that are happening. Thank you for speaking up & sharing your story!

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  • In Bangladesh it's still happening a lot..😑😭😢😢U are amazing...

  • This is even more painful because her voice is so similar to her sister's

  • You suffered FGM?! I could not

  • The "prophet" Mohammad married a nine year old.

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  • Hey if you see this before you watch the video.... around the middle of it there is a trigger warning

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  • no way banaz and her were friends

  • A plea to end those pants.

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  • The more power you seek, the less you actually have. Says something about abusive people, doesn’t it?

  • Those pipo who sold those wedding clothes and jewellery too. Your sister is your hero ans she's happy where she is that she saved a girl child. Love you You look amazingly beautiful

  • Lord help the victims 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

  • Dont they have no fault divorce?

  • What kind of schools do they have there that dont care if a child is married.

  • Absuma & Fayidi... listen up, Afar people....

  • Many of the people who did not ask about her situation at such a young age DID NOT inquire about this for fear of what might happen to them if they come up against this tragic "religion" and its terrible actions against women and children.

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  • I hope the wretched people who disliked this video have a horrible horrible year this poor sweet girl and so many like her deserve to be free and their abusers should be punished with the utmost severity I beg of this to be made illegal

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  • Islam taught us so good but still we don't understand.....keep forcing your daughters and keep killing them whatever it is called ie honor killing....Islam doesn't teach us to do anything by force.

  • Isn't diversity wonderful?

  • My grandmother was 16 when she got married to my grandfather who was 28. She was intelligent and wanted to study more and be a teacher but her parents took away her freedom. She went on to have 6 kids and took care of them alone and manage the household. When I asked her what she felt when she was married off she said "I was really scared. Life was really difficult. I wanted to be a kid but I was given responsibilities. As it was very common in my community i had no choice but to marry. " I hope this pratice ends soon.

  • Islam is a religion of peace?

  • What’s so funny, you all know what the topic was going to be about... what a bunch of idiotic audience members.

  • Oh my god

  • she's so pretty 🥺

  • No matter what hideous thing anybody wants to do, is just fine if it’s cloaked in religion.

  • NOPE sorry, i was with you 110% until you said you had an abortion, YOU KILLED AN INNOCENT BABY, MAKES YOU WORSE THAN YOUR FAMILY IN MY EYES, YOU MURDERED YOUR OWN BABY, YOU COULD HAVE HAD IT ADOPTED NOT KILLED IT,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,

  • "My sister had been murdered for leaving child marriage " "Whoow 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏"

  • Thank you for sharing! ❤️

  • This is the kind of tragedy that results from immigrants not being required to live within the laws of the country they immigrate to. Incidentally, the western world is the only place IN the world that this is allowed to happen. Everywhere else, you go there, you obey the laws of that country.

  • What a beautiful soul this woman is

  • When your powerless it takes your life away

  • Unfortunately this is how her Dad was programmed and more than likely his dad and his dad. Apparently he didnt have a brain cell. This poor girl 😭arranged marriages are still going on in America! And believe me ....it fuking sucks!

  • God bless your ♥️ for this mission.. hope you won’t get hurt ♥️💕♥️

  • Can't blame others cos they'll be called racists and bigots.

  • She has spoken on behalf of all child marriage victims; specially girl childs over the world

  • Bravo.....u deserve a NOBLE PRIZE.....

  • Yes it should be a crime, I can't believe still in 2020.

  • Wow at this talk. This should have more views, it happens in our society and it is NOT acceptable. Brave woman, you are truly amazing.

  • God bless these people!!! Im so sorry they have to deal with freaks of this world. Stay strong. All the men that marry and abuse children should die. I can't believe she has to stand here and plead for itbti be a crime. Like when did it not be a crime

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  • what’s fgm?

  • Going to school in UK,,,,,,,and that naive................wow

  • How not to be a parent

  • The number of adults who failed to proceed us

  • The dislikes are from human traffickers....

  • Not much mention of fgm jus a horrific aside omg. This lady is a goddess warrior

  • No problems with the treatment of women or children. Systematic if not a majority moreover if only a small minority it's not happening at anywhere near the rate in any other religion or group in uk

  • She tried her best to be respectful toward murderous monsters who prey on young girls. 😐 Including her own father, of course.

  • I was married at 16 I was not happy not at all

  • Child marriage should become a crime; because it is one in all other ways besides the law... and we need to change that.

  • Did their mother also get jail time for participating so willingly in all of this

  • I’ve heard bannaz’s story many times and it infuriated me. It’s amazing that her sister is a speaker! I LOVE IT! Speak girl! Tell that truth!!!!

  • So sad and unfair.. must be stopped.

  • I'm also disgusted by the teachers and nurses and people who weren't brainwashed by culture. Wtf is wrong with people who are MANDATORY reporters??

  • How is FGM even legal in the UK? That urgently needs addressing in addition to child marriage.

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  • She should have executed her parents and her husband. NO ONE will protect you!!! You have to protect yourself. Stop looking for someone to come and rescue you. Clearly the entire community and government are in support of child marriage. It is your responsibility to protect yourself. period.

  • Wow so sorry no child deserves this .

  • Please share this video. I am so so very sorry for all you and your sister and so many others go through. It is wrong, very wrong, and should be a crime. I am proud so of you. I hope you find the happiness you deserve. Hugs.

  • Wow. In California, if Child Protective Services takes one child out of the home, we would almost always take all of them. It's so odd that they took her sister and didn't even evaluate risk to her siblings. I wonder if FGM in the UK is allowed by the mainstream/dominant culture bc it's "culturally or religiously specific"?

  • The fact that this could have happened to any of us, if we were born into the wrong family is sad.